Girl…You need to become more Selfish and know your boundaries! I died a little inside when my mother was quick to agree with me that I was selfish (she didn’t see it as good) but…Sister, it’s ok to be selfish. It’s called self-care, it’s called self-preservation… It’s called boundaries

I spent years and years, more than I can count on my fingers and toes the times I would put myself and my dreams at the bottom of my “this matters” list. Can you relate?

Here is what happened when I kept saying “yes”, instead of “No” or “I’m sorry, not now.”


*I got resentful of others

*I hated myself deep down

*I felt massively overwhelmed and frustrated 

*I became angry. 

It wasn’t noticeable for a long time but soon the cracks started to show. First, it showed up in how I slept. Then I became quick to lose my shit and then… I started giving up. 

Giving up on my self-care 

Giving up on my dreams

The result was a crumbling marriage, cancer scare and an inner voice who relentlessly screamed: “You’re not good enough”. 

You can’t believe that voice! You must take a stand and speak back to your inner mean girl and the best place to start is becoming selfish.

Create Boundaries and become more selfish

Selfish doesn’t mean you turn into a rude witch or an A-hole.  And boundaries aren’t a bad thing. What they are is giving yourself permission to say “no”. Permission to say “no” to the thing someone else wants you to do that takes you away from what you truly want. “No” to what doesn’t align with your values. Saying “no” because you’re too tired and simply want to catch up on your favourite Netflix series. 

Selfish isn’t a rude word and having boundaries doesn’t make you a biartch. It also doesn’t mean you don’t care or don’t have a heart.

It’s the opposite! It means you care so much about your soul’s calling and desires. 

You care so much for those you love that you want to be the example of what it looks like to strive every day to live your best life and chase your dreams. 

Practice today being selfish, practice right now creating boundaries and you will begin to feel your confidence increase. Take time to DreamBuild and imagine into what you would love for your life. 

Make today matter! – Own it!

Make today mean more than pleasing others. Make today the day you DECIDE your dreams matter. Make today the day YOU TAKE action.

become more selfish

Hey Sister, Do you ever have those days or weeks when everything feels like an uphill battle?


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Hey, I’m Ang! Leading DreamBuilder coach, business success mentor, international best selling author of The Messy Mum’s Playbook, mum and the founder of the Firefly Academy and Firefly DreamBuilder.

Plus I am blessed to stand alongside women helping them ignite the best versions of themselves so they can achieve their goals & dreams.