I remember when I was younger meeting my now husband (gosh it feels like a long time ago) I had a giddy feeling in my tummy when I’d catch him across the room. Over time this giddy feeling started to change into a feeling like that of a warm heavy blanket being wrapped around you and making you feel safe. Safe to be me whilst growing together.
Yet the journey hasn’t always been smooth like you see in the movies. It’s been a journey and on this journey, there are 4 things I have had to let go of and continue to have to let go of in order to keep our relationship alive and thriving.
These 4 things you need to let go of to attract love into your life I see come up regularly with my clients both in my Therapy sessions and within my online community so I know they will help you too
When you let go of these 4 things love become easier to attract and easier to nourish and evolve.
The 4 things you must let go of to attract love
- Let go of your expectations.
You know the ones that you have. That the next person you meet must be the perfect person for you. Or you put time expectations on your relationship. Or it may be that they always “get you”, that they should know how you want to be loved or what you’re thinking (I know you know).
These expectations you have stuck. They will never be met which means you never feel loved or able to attract love. Let these expectations and timelines go and start meeting them where they are, for who they are and see if this feels right for you.
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2: Let go of any past “failures” or “mistakes.
Holding onto past ideas od failure and mistakes is kind of like putting a wall between you and love. You’re always painting others with the brush of the past which normally ends two ways. We either recreate the same experience or we don’t allow ourselves to see if there is potential for the relationship for fear of being hurt.
What if you let this go and instead simply allowed yourself to be in the relationship and trust you will know if it’s right or not (important note: don’t ignore your gut it’s always right)
3: Let go of those feelings of insecurity
This is a big one for me. I can often feel insecure about myself and my relationship even after 23 years together. Normally it’s my mind trying to make up a story. When this happens it’s not the fault of the other person (most of the time) but something going on within me. If this is happening to you question your insecurities for truth, ask yourself where is the proof and … discuss your feelings with your partner.
4: Let go of the idea that you are incomplete without having someone else in your life
You are perfectly complete. And.. it’s your responsibility to fill your own cup and not rely on someone else to do it for you. If you do rely on others you will find yourself disappointed. No one can give you what you can’t give yourself. Remind yourself of who you are. Perfect. Loveable and Enough. Treat yourself and love yourself the way you want to be treated by others especially as you desire to be treated by your partner.
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