When I first met Sandra, she was quiet, seemed deeply sad and in need of a really big hug. Sandra was juggling the swords of mum guilt, knives of low self-esteem and stick of fire known as loss of purpose. In Sandra’s words “I had lost my focus and purpose at work, lost any creative passion and my self-esteem had taken a nose dive – I stacked on heaps of weight”.
When we dived in a little deeper Sandra confessed that she had been struggling with her self talk “barely holding myself together for the sake of my daughter who I have been supporting for the last couple of years through her personal mental health issues, I am exhausted, yet at the same time struggle to sleep at night feeling guilty for wanting me time – I have lost my sense of identity”.
Sandra is not alone in feeling a loss of purpose, focus and identity. Us women put the needs of everyone first and wear all the hats from mum, partner, taxi driver, home nurse, cook and cleaner (to name a few) until we end up exhausted and that’s when it feels like the wheels have fallen off the wagon. That is when we are assaulted with negative self-talk and our self-esteem and confidence suffer.